The surest way to keep from feeling left out is to let people in.
Easier said then done , especially if one has been hurt by them . Learning to trust and believe in people again is
hard . Our first instinct , is a desire to do the opposite . We want to withdraw into our private shells and lick our wounds in despair . Pity party anyone ?
I'm always amazed at the motivational speakers who come up with phrases such as the one above . They're never
sad , or depressed ? Everything is always coming up roses in their life ? They can bounce back up to their feet instantly when things go wrong ?
I just can't do that . I need to digest what happened and sort out my feelings before I can let go and move on . I need to feel . I need to allow the hurt to escape me through my
tears .
Believe me , I am the first person to admit that I don't care for the wallowing type , but . . . . . I do take a day or two in solitude to clear my mind and empty my heart .
I wish life was as easy as step 1 ,2, and 3 , but we all know it isn't . Majority of people need time to heal and adjust to the changes that jump in front of them suddenly . How we handle difficulties in our life usually comes with experience . We learn as we go .
On the other hand . . . . ..
Inspirational thoughts offer hope to a dying heart . As much as they annoy us at first . . .. I mean , who wants to hear all that goodie goodie stuff when our hearts are broken . When we are done crying out like a weeping willow , they offer a beautiful rainbow and we grasp it .
We pick ourselves up off the floor and apply step 1 , 2 , and 3 into our daily routine . We let people in again , because we are full of hope . We start believing in these words , because we need to .
For some of us , that pick me up takes longer than what is healthy for our well being . We despair more than its worth and years later , we regret spending so much time on that person or situation .
The surest way to keep from feeling left out is to let people in.
We start believing that phrase , because maybe this time we will come out on top and no one will hurt our heart again .
Have a Blessed day everyone .
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